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Q and A: Cash gift or Registry Gift?

Continuing with the Gift Theme this week (also known as the week I downloaded 5 different “gift box” stock photos from the internet!), I received this timely Question from a Bridesmaiding reader!


How much is appropriate to give as a gift per couple when attending a wedding? I was talking it over with some friends, and personally I always give $100 to $200 cash. What is the right amount and is cash better or is it better to get something off of the wedding registry?

Bridesmaiding’s Answer:

Photo credit: P. Widling

I get this question often and I think it really depends on what you’re comfortable with, what you can afford, and what your relationship is to the bride and groom. Personally, my friends know I’m no Bill Gates right now, so I don’t think they expect anything too expensive. They also know I go to a lot of weddings and that for each event attached to the wedding (Shower, Engagement Party, Bachelorette) – I’m spending money. I take that into account. In any case, for close friends – I usually give cash. It depends what you can afford but I’m sure that anything from $100 – $150 range is great. If you’re in a little bit of a better financial place, you can obviously give more.

(After talking about this with other people, I might be on the lower end of the spending spectrum. I just know what my friends can afford and if it were me getting married, I wouldn’t want my friends breaking the bank on a gift. It’d be more important to me that they attend the wedding and have fun more than anything… )

Photo: Zsuzsanna Kilian

If I’m super close with the couple or if I am in the bridal party – I’ll spend more on the gift, or I’ll try to think of something personal/creative as a gift. (Check out these creative gift ideas.)

If I’m not really close with the couple (perhaps its a colleague or something) – I’ll often give something off the registry. In my opinion, you can get away with spending less when you order something off the registry… and you know you’ll be getting them something they want, since they asked for it.

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One thought on “Q and A: Cash gift or Registry Gift?

  1. Ashleigh

    I personally try to limit gifts to $50. Sure, if there’s a shower, that means you get more, but after being in 5 weddings and invited to countless others, this wedding thing gets way too expensive, especially on poor girl (read: graduate student/ non-profit salary) budget. As far as creative goes- the best gift I’ve given was when I wrote out the wedding theme (“Live, Laugh, Love”) in the sand on a beach vacation, then wrote the wedding date and the bride and groom’s names. Each one got it’s own picture, which I had developed and put in a nice frame. Spent between $25-30 there. It was the hit of a wedding shower, I’ll tell you that much.


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